12 Prayers | Marriage
I am so glad that you are here to pray with us!! God is pleased too. Lets get started and lift our marriages to the creator of marriage, asking for healing, guidance, and growth! With each number you will find a title, a photo, and a few scriptures along with the prayer I have written. Lets approach the throne of grace with confidence because of our sweet savior, Jesus, who is there with the Father on our behalf. Prayer is real, prayer is powerful, and we are about to release some major prayer on our marriages!!
1. Pray that you would see and know that marriage comes from God and its purpose is to glorify Him.
Genesis 2:18-25: "Then the Lord God said, 'It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for[a] him.' Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed[b] every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam[c] there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made[d] into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said,
'This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.'[e]
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed."
God, you are the creator of marriage. You gave Eve to Adam and established this covenant. But I do not show marriage the respect it deserves. My own sin, selfishness, and cultural bondage make it almost impossible for me to understand your real purpose and intention for marriage. In your word you give us a view of marriage that is more glorious than anything this culture ever imagined. Our minds are not able to comprehend the enormity of the glory of marriage without your divine revelation. So please, Spirit, come and help me grasp that marriage is not really about me but about you, God!
2. Pray for forgiveness to reign in your marriage.
Colossians 3:13: “Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.”
Psalm 103:12: “As far as the east is from the west,
so far does he remove our transgressions from us.”
Jesus, you are the great forgiver. You have forgiven me of the sin that required your death, yet I am so slow to forgive even the people closest to me. Jesus, I desperately need forgiveness to be the default in our marriage. I need for you to help me to love without condition, to forgive when I am wronged, and ask for forgiveness in humility when I have wronged my spouse. Help me not to hold grudges, for I want to be like you who refuses to call my former sins to mind. God, in order to forgive like this I must understand the depth of my own sin and your forgiveness of me. Help me learn to forgive like you do.
3.Pray that you and your spouse would be a covenant keepers in your marriage.
Ecclesiastes 5:4-5: “When you make a vow to God do not delay in fulfilling it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow. It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it.”
Ecclesiastes 4:12: “And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
Matthew 28:20: “ teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”
Lord, I pray that my spouse and I would be covenant keepers, not covenant breakers. I pray we would understand the seriousness of the vow we made before each other and before you . I know romance, good looks, and fuzzy feelings are not going to sustain our marriage, but a covenant will. Lord, I pray that you would deepen our understanding of marriage and sustain our commitment by your grace. I pray we would grasp the sacredness of marriage, that we would see it as a unique creation by you and a direct portrayal of your relationship to your church. Ipray that we would better grasp the reality of the covenant-keeping love you have for us. I pray we would see how you took us, an imperfect bride, as your lover; how you made a covenant with us and promised to always be with us. I pray we will do the same for our marriage.
4.Pray that you and your spouse would submit to one another in your marriage and not insist on your own rights.
Ephesians 5:21-33: “Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.[a] In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. 'Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.' This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
Father, submission and relinquishing our rights is so counter cultural and counter to our own sinful desires, but that is what I want in my marriage. I want to submit to my spouse out of reverence to Christ. I want to embrace my role and not consider myself better than my spouse. I don't want to insist on my own rights. I don't want to blame or seek to find fault in my spouse. Instead, I want to love with acceptance and forgiveness. I want respect and love to rule both our speech and interactions. Jesus, would you please help us to do this because it is not natural on our own. I need you! We need you
5. Pray that you would be sanctified more so that you might look more like Christ.
1 Thessalonians 5:23-24: “Now may the God of peace himself sanctify you completely, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. He who calls you is faithful; he will surely do it.”
Jesus, there is no better gift I can give my spouse than to look more like you. Jesus, please change me completely. Please make my thoughts, speech, and actions reflect you. Lord, make me as holy as a sinner saved by grace can be. I pray you would root out my sin and help me to run toward your grace in the word, prayer, and the church to help conform me to your likeness. I pray that because of my pursuit of Christ, my spouse would have more of Christ. I also pray that if my spouse is an unbeliever, my pursuit of you will show the love of Christ and he/she would come to a saving faith in you, Jesus.
6. God I pray that you would bless our marriage bed.
Proverbs 5:18-19: "Let your fountain be blessed,
and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight;
be intoxicated always in her love."
Song of Solomon 1:2: "Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!
For your love is better than wine."
Hebrews 13:4-5: “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, 'I will never leave you nor forsake you.'”
God, you created sexual intimacy and I pray that our sexual relationship would be healthy and strong. I ask that our attraction will grow with time rather than diminish for one another. I also pray that our marriage bed will be kept pure and undefiled. I pray against pornography and affairs, both physical and emotional. I ask for healing and restoration for sexual activity that happened outside of marriage, for you are the great healer of our past hurt. I pray for great pleasure and enjoyment to be found in one another and that we would achieve ultimate sexual satisfaction within the marriage bed, not seeking it elsewhere. Help us to seek to serve one another, not ourselves, in our sexual intimacy. Remind us that our bodies are not our own, but that we belong to one another. Jesus, maythe way that we engage in sexual intimacy within our marriage be fueled by love rather than lust. Thank you, Jesus, that our pleasure does not detract from your glory in an undefiled marriage bed.
7. Pray that the fruit of your marriage would be physical/adopted and/or spiritual children.
Genesis 1:28: "And God blessed them. And God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.'”
Psalm 127:4: "Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth."
Romans 9:8: "This means that it is not the children of the flesh who are the children of God, but the children of the promise are counted as offspring."
God, I ask that you would help us see that marriage is more than our love for one another. Marriage is the means by which you have chosen to perpetuate the human race and an avenue for spreading the gospel. You use the marriage bed to bring new life into the world. I pray that you would guide the growth of our family. According to your will, grant our family physical children. I humbly submit to your plans. I also ask that you would raise up many couples with open hearts to adopt children. For the children you have already given or will give in the future, I pray that you would bring them into your covenant family and save them at very young ages, that they would glorify you. I pray that even when and where you choose to grant us children, our marriage would be kept a priority and our children will recognize that it comes first. I also ask that you would use our marriage to birth and nurture spiritual children. May our words and lives proclaim Christ. I pray that you would give us the opportunity to help usher many into the kingdom through our marriage.
8.Pray that the glory of God would be displayed in your marriage for a watching and lost world.
Ephesians 5:31-32: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.”
Colossians 3:12-19: “Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them."
Lord, we need you to display the glory of Christ and his gospel message to us. I pray that both of us would grasp more fully the forgiveness of sin and grow in our relationship with God. Help us to bend our vertical relationship with you horizontally toward our relationship with each other. I pray that the world would see your glory and gospel displayed as we love, forgive, serve, submit to, and think of each other ahead of ourselves.
9. Pray for reconciliation and restoration of my broken marriage (If you are divorced, or physically or emotionally separated, this prayer is for you. If by grace you are not, then pray for a friend who is in this place.)
1 Peter 4:8: "Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins."
Luke 18:22: “When Jesus heard this, he said to him, 'One thing you still lack. Sell all that you have and distribute to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.'"
1 John 1:9: “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
Matthew 19:26: "But Jesus looked at them and said, 'With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.'”
God, nothing is impossible with you. You know my situation. You know the pain, the sin, the intense brokenness. God, I beg you to restore our marriage. I pray that where there was death of love and commitment, you will give new growth. I pray that the love of the covenant-keeping God would pour into our hearts and by your grace we would restore the covenant of our youth. God, we pray that you would restore the years that the locusts have eaten. I pray for repentance for the sin we have committed and I pray for the grace to forgive where it needs to be given. I pray that the partner who has left would be reconciled first to you, Jesus, and then to me and his/her family. I pray that whatever has enticed them away would be taken down as their idol and they would worship the one true king. May we honor the commitment we made before one another and God.
For those of us who are married, I pray for repentance and forgiveness in the parts of our marriages that are broken, for even those who are happily married have broken parts. Please heal and restore these places, Lord.
10. Pray your marriage will not be an idol.
James 4:14: “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.”
1 Corinthians 10:14: "Therefore, my dear friends, flee from idolatry."
1 Corinthians 7:8: "For the unmarried I say it is good for you to remain unmarried as I am."
Lord, it is so easy for marriage to become an idol. I admit that I often see marriage as better than singleness. But that is not what your word says. Each has its rightful and important place in displaying the gospel to the world. Another way I see idolatry in marriage is in allowing my spouse to take your place. I look to him/her as my savior instead of you. I look to my spouse to satisfy me instead of you. I know that my spouse cannot live up to the role of god in my life, and I also know that you are a jealous God. I ask for forgiveness for this idolatry. Help me put you first - above my marriage and my spouse.
11. Pray your marriage will be full of enjoyment, laughter anda deep friendship.
Psalm 126:2: "Our mouths were filled with laughter,
our tongues with songs of joy.
Then it was said among the nations,
'The Lord has done great things for them.'"
Proverbs 5:18: "May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth."
God, you created us to be relational people; we love sharing life with others. I pray that our marriage would be one that is full of enjoyment and fun. Marriage is an expression of you, and you are not boring. You are full of joy, creativity, and excitement. I ask that our marriage would be the same. In a culture where relationships are so physically-based it can be easy to forget about friendship, so I also pray for deep friendship. Lord, I ask that we would bear with one another through the hard times and rejoice with one another in the great times. Jesus, please give us your joy. May it flow into our interactions.
12. Pray you will see marriage as a momentary gift.
Revelation 21:1-5: "Then I saw 'a new heaven and a new earth,' for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and there was no longer any sea. I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, 'Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. "He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death" or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.' He who was seated on the throne said, 'I am making everything new!' Then he said, 'Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.'"
God, I know that marriage is just a momentary gift. I don’t know how long you will allow our marriage to be, but I know that in light of eternity it is very short. I don’t know if our marriage will be mostly filled with sorrow or bright days, but I do know that if you allow me to simultaneously treasure marriage and hold it loosely, it will flourish in either situation. I ask, Jesus, that you would help me to grasp the extreme beauty and temporary nature of this covenant. Thank you, Jesus, that “very soon the shadow will give way to reality, the partial will pass into the perfect. The foretaste will lead to the banquet. The troubled path will end in paradise. A hundred candle-lit evenings will come to their consummation in the marriage supper of the lamb. And this momentary marriage will be swallowed up by life. Christ will be all and in all. And the purpose of marriage will be complete.” (John Piper, "This Momentary Marriage") AMEN!
Thank you! It has been a great joy and honor to join together with you in prayer. Thank you for exchanging fear for peace through our prayers. Thank you, John Piper, for writing the wonderful, God-centered book "This Momentary Marriage", which served as my guide for these prayers. Thank you to all the ladies who allowed me to use their beautiful photos, and thank you, Kate Peterson, for your beautiful work on the graphics. Most importantly, thank you to Jesus, who, through his death and blood, offers us access to the throne of God.